• A climate of mutual safety and respect is paramount
  • We have within us the seeds of the solutions we need. In therapy we discover these, learn to trust them, and then have the courage to live them, each in our own way.
  • Positive change can occur more easily than you might expect. We may believe we are more stuck than we are.
  • Understanding and practice are both essential. Insight needs to be applied. Action needs awareness. We learn to live what we know, and to know what we are living.
  • We have more inner resources than we know. Our own truth is one of these resources. My job is to remind you of this.
  • Mind and body are intimately connected. Change in one can lead to change in the other.
  • Small changes add up. We need to persist with these.
  • Sensible risks are essential. Learning to act from confidence and love, rather than fear, makes this possible.
  • Different people and problems require different therapeutic approaches.
  • There is more to us than we know. Maybe more than we can know.
  • Some problems respond well to a head-on approach. Others need us to respect their mystery and depth. Learning to know the difference saves us much frustration.
  • You do some of this in sessions and some in your life.
  • All of the above works when we are being mindful. Mindfulness means non-judgmental, interested awareness of our present experience.
  • In therapy, we learn to pay close attention to how we feel, think, and respond to the world and other people. Doing this helps us to see where our resources and strengths are, and where we are living out old belief patterns that no longer serve us.

My goal: To understand and accept your truth and choices (though not excuses), help you to discover and know what your life requires of you, and encourage you at every step to know and to act from what is most true for you. I have no agenda for how you should live your life. That is your choice and responsibility. But I do wish my clients to live with awareness of themselves, with their needs, feelings, choices, and history, and to be true to themselves. The rest flows from there. I hope people will choose to become more truly themselves, maturing and becoming free to choose well how they live and react.

If therapy has risks, it is that we may experience what we feel, who we are, and the impact of previous events strongly at times. We may be called to try out different behaviours, have new experiences, and to relate differently to others. It may all take time, patience, and persistence. And in therapy, as in life, there are no guarantees. You can and should talk about how therapy is going with your therapist. Everyone comes to true therapy as a volunteer, which means that you conclude when you wish to and you will never be compelled to go against your true wishes.

Brian Grady, Ph.D